In long term relationships, no matter how much the partners love each other, it is very possible for some degree of complacency to set in. In most cases it isn’t intentional.
Sometimes life happens, gets in the way, and before you know it weeks, months, or years have passed since partners have engaged in behaviors that build connection and enhance romance. Hopefully that has never yet happened to any of you reading this blog. So, before it does, ask yourself this question: When was the last time I/we did any of the items listed below.
When was the last time you and your partner engaged in nonsexual touch for the sheer enjoyment of it with no expectation of sexual intercourse?
When was the last time, after acknowledging some wrongdoing, you said “I’m sorry” followed by the words “will you forgive me? Saying I’m sorry is not enough.
When was the last time you expressed gratitude not for the things your partner does for you, but for their presence in your life?
When was the last time you gave your partner something special, not for a birthday or any special occasion, but just because?
When was the last time you thought more about what you are not giving to your partner as opposed to what you are not getting?
All of the activities mentioned above can help to strengthen the emotional connection between you and your partner. Engage in them often and when you do, don’t let there be a last time.